“The scene of peace and coolness of heart is a very honourable for the person who recognizes it and tastes it’s sweetness. This entails his heart and his inner feelings not bothering about the harm that he has experienced,
Furthermore, his heart should not bother about avenging this harm and satisfying his soul Rather, his heart should be empty and devoid of all this. He should realize that the peace and coolness of his heart and it being devoid of all this is more beneficial for him, more delightful, more wholesome and more advantageous.”
“This is because if the heart occupies itself in any sort of revenge, it would miss all that is more important and better for it. In so doing, the person will be deceived. An intelligent and discerning person will not be pleased with that. He will consider all this to be the engagements of a foolish person. How can there be any comparison between peace of the heart and it being filled with deception and evil whisperings? And being fully engrossed with exacting revenge?”
As for the scene of peace and tranquillity — if a person abstains from replying to the harm and exacting revenge, he will save himself from all that is worse than this, if he exacts revenge, he will certainly experience fear.
This because revenge sows enmity. And an intelligent person never feels safe from his enemy even if he is an insignificant one. Many an insignificant person has brought about the fall of his major enemy.
So if a person forgives, if he does not exact any revenge, if he does not reply to the harm, he will save himself from the birth of enmity or the increase of enmity. His pardon, his forbearance and his overlooking will certainly break the power of his enemy and repulse his fear — contrary to what exacting revenge will do. Experience also bears testimony to all this.”
Ibn al-Qayyirn, Madãrij as-Salikin, Vol2 p320
‘As for the five things that corrupt the heart, they are those that are referred to:
- Mixing too much with people,
- Wishful thinking,
- Being attached to anything other than Allah,
- Eating one’s fill, and
- Sleeping too much.
These five are the greatest corrupters of the heart.’
Ibn Qayyim, Madaarij al-Saalikeen (1/453).
One problem many of us face is that we want to do so much at once, and thus become overwhelmed in our thoughts trying to establish exactly what we should be doing and what our obligations are at a given point in time. This leads us to focus on what we can’t accomplish moreso than what we can accomplish. This can be well and good, and as Ibn al-Jawzi said, a person can be rewarded for his intentions more than for his actions. However, the point of intending is to be productive and extract something physical from that intention.
Part of being productive is to have a methodical approach as to when to focus on what. For example, if your worship and intentions for specific efforts are organized and you properly place your focus where and when it should be, you’ll find yourself accomplishing much more as a Muslim, no matter if you’re a scholar who teaches, a caller to Allah who motivates, or a general worshipper who simply wants to get closer to your Lord.
‘Madarij as-Salikin’ (1/188):
The divine decree related to the believer is always a bounty, even if it is in the form of withholding (something that is desired), and it is a blessing, even if it appears to be a trial, and an affliction that has befallen him is in reality a cure, even though it appears to be a disease!
Unfortunately, due to the ignorance of the worshipper, and his transgressions, he does not consider anything to be a gift or a blessing or a cure unless he can enjoy it immediately, and it is in accordance with his nature. If he were only given a little bit of understanding, then he would have counted being withheld from as a blessing, and the sickness as a mercy, and he would relish the trouble that befalls him more than he relishes his ease, and he would enjoy poverty more than he enjoys richness, and he would be more thankful when he is blessed with little than when he is blessed with a lot.
Imam ibn al Qayyim rahimahullah :
Madarij al-Salikin 2/215-2